How to Strike a Balance

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“I FAILED again!” How many times have you said something like that because you were unable to accomplish what you set out to do?  Lately, I have been feeling overwhelmed from the inability to keep up with a consistent schedule because there are just too many demands on my time. As an extremely organized individual, this is almost like a life and death situation for me (well, I might be exaggerating a bit…um, not really). In other words, falling behind is not an option!  When I fall so far behind from accomplishing the must-get done things on my to-do list, from business demands to other necessary commitments (in addition to taking care of my household), it immobilizes me with unhealthy feelings of failure and defeat, which then spirals into feelings of depression and lethargy. It’s been a long while since I’ve reached this rare point, but when it suddenly slaps me in the face, that is when I know it’s time to stop for a self-reexamination to evaluate what needs to give in order to strike a balance. Being a perfectionist obviously does not help (I have gotten better…but still have a ways to go). In effort to help me strike a balance, here are three things I remind myself to readjust my thinking:

1. Be Reasonable. Being reasonable helps me to take a balanced look at my circumstances. Of course, that requires simplifying my schedule by not overloading myself with additional work or commitments that are not within my reach. To avoid that unpleasant feeling of failure, I need to be realistic that there is only so much I can do within the circumstances given to me on any given day.

2. Make adjustments. A sailboat may be cruising along at full speed with the wind blowing in its sails. However, when the sailor at the helm encounters a fierce storm, he is forced to adjust the sails. He is not in control of the storm, but by making adjustments, he may remain in control of his sailboat. In a comparable way, often we have no control over adverse stormlike circumstances that we encounter in life. Nevertheless, I can keep control of my life to the extent possible by adjusting the way I use my time according to my physical, mental, and emotional abilities.

3. Rejoice over what is accomplished - even if it is only one thing. On days when it seems like all the balls drop, there’s always at least one thing that can be celebrated.

Note to self: 

“Life is hard enough already without blaming yourself for things that are beyond your control. And even when things are within your control, things will not always go according to plan. Just try again tomorrow.”

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